Burnout. [15 Things I’m No Longer Available For]
We made it through, Dear One.
Sometimes just “surviving” feels like relief and a blessing.
#truth.
But, is it sustainable?
Call it burnout, overstimulation, overwhelm - or the chrysalis stage of metamorphosis. Anything you call it - it sucks.
The experts say it leads to depression, fawning, anxiety, hopelessness, lack of creativity, social isolation, relationship problems and in some cases - suicide.
Thank God I caught it when I did.
This year I went from the best year I’ve had yet financially and momentum-wise in my career & relationships - to barely hanging on (when I hit a wall energetically).
When administration days came around, when marketing days came around, when opportunities and social events came around…I just “couldn’t” anymore. Most humans in the first-world push themselves through these times. But, as a medium, I literally “can’t” do what doesn’t “feel right.”
So, “what does it mean” when we get burnout?
The meaning is unique for each individual (see suggestions below) - but the umbrella meaning is…
“moving through life as I currently am moving - is no longer workable.”
Sometimes it’s a call to…
raise your rates
take an additional day off
downsize your load
join a support group/ spiritual center or church
collaborate or cohabitate (so it’s not all on you)
repair relationships (forgive)
manage your own self-expectations
align your dream with a balanced way of being
follow new guidance and pivot directions
share more emotionally in your relationships
ask for support/help
let go of an old identity that no longer serves you
maintain more firmed boundaries
do more things that bring you joy
develop daily practices of exercise & meditation
release perfectionism
slow dowwwwwn
rest & recalibrate
And my personal favorite…
assess what you’re no longer available for
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Things that just benefit friends or loved ones that are not spirit-inspired and don’t also benefit me. That “benefit” can simply be “the goodness it feels to help or support.” But there IS a visceral benefit and it feels “right.”
Monotonous tasks that don’t inspire my creativity or drive/fuel my energy. These tasks will be outsourced.
Staying on practitioners email lists just because they are friends or because I want them to stay on my list. [No hard feelings]
Signing up for programs or emails from practitioners and coaches constantly on dopamine highs selling an “UPLEVELING” of life vs. a QUALITY of life. [I will no longer use “upleveling” language in my own marketing]
Following or pretending to support causes that I think I should care about ( or that I used to care about but don’t anymore)… I’m only supporting causes that I actually do passionately care about in current time.
Passive aggression or being guilted (for literally ANYTHING).
Making to-do lists (unless it feels supportive, fun and creative)
Archiving and saving emails “to do something with later” (that I’m not inspired to act on now). [I trust that if the idea was meant for me - I will be reminded by my guides or exposed again through a different medium].
Creating online content for others - that I don’t also need for myself [I give to others while I give to myself through my posts and emails]
Promising others that I will do things by a certain time (unless that time is right now).
Showing up at events or places that I’m “expected” to - but not aligned with. If it’s something that’s really important to a loved one (and I WANT to be in alignment for)… I will do what I need to do to GET into alignment. I.e.: dress down if I don’t feel like dressing up, dress up if I don’t feel like dressing down, bringing a game, bringing headphones if I feel like I might be too stimulated, creating a container of time that I will be there that feels safe and honoring to my energy.
Trying to emulate other people’s ideas and successes. [This just makes me feel badly and doesn’t inspire me or make me feel GOOD about myself].
Hiring or trading for help that is energetically more draining than advantageous. I now hire beautiful souls that are income generating, experts in their field (or motivated to learn), self motivators and feel excited to follow their own ideas through to conclusion. “You have the idea, you create the plan, you tell me what resources you need, you hire the people you need to make it happen and you deliver.”
Co-dependent and boundaryless dynamics in partnerships, client and loved-one relationships. And I’m also no longer available for close relationships with those that don’t maintain boundaries in their other relationships.
Perfectionism. And I am willing to face judgment from clients, loved ones friends (and myself) as a result.
My Mission Statement
𝕀 𝕒𝕞 𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕝𝕚𝕓𝕖𝕣𝕒𝕥𝕖 𝕞𝕪 𝕤𝕠𝕦𝕝 𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕟𝕒𝕥𝕖 𝕗𝕣𝕠𝕞 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕚𝕝𝕝𝕦𝕤𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕠𝕗 𝕚𝕟𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕟𝕒𝕝 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕖𝕩𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕟𝕒𝕝 𝕚𝕟𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕔𝕖𝕣𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟. 𝔸𝕟𝕕 𝕀 𝕕𝕖𝕞𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕥𝕣𝕒𝕥𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕡𝕒𝕥𝕙 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕝𝕚𝕓𝕖𝕣𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕓𝕪 𝕗𝕠𝕝𝕝𝕠𝕨𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕘𝕦𝕚𝕕𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕖 𝕚𝕟 𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕪 𝕤𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕝𝕖 𝕞𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥, 𝒷𝑒𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓅𝓁𝒶𝓎𝒻𝓊𝓁, 𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕦𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕞𝕪 𝕤𝕠𝕦𝕝'𝕤 𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕗𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝕗𝕣𝕖𝕢𝕦𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕪 - 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕥𝕣𝕦𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘.
𝕀’𝕧𝕖 𝕗𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕 𝕞𝕪 𝕡𝕒𝕤𝕤𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕀 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥 𝕥𝕠 𝕤𝕖𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕖𝕟 𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕝𝕕 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝒾𝓃𝓈𝒾𝒹𝑒 𝓂𝓎𝓈𝑒𝓁𝒻 - 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕀 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕡𝕚𝕣𝕖 𝕞𝕪 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕞𝕦𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕪 𝕥𝕠 𝕕𝕚𝕤𝕔𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕣𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕒𝕣𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕚𝕣 𝕠𝕨𝕟 𝕡𝕒𝕤𝕤𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖.
~ 𝑅𝒶𝒸𝒽𝑒𝓁
I know wherever you are - God is: Lighting up your soul with limitless compassion, grace, resources and hope.
Command right NOW to be tapped in. It’s the frequency that matters. Not the thought. Not the evidence. The frequency.
Yes. You can. Yes. You ARE worthy and deserving. WITHOUT question Dear Soul.
“Forget about tomorrow, love what you’re living now.”
𝓘 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮 𝔂𝓸𝓾.
In Service to The Divine Within,
𝑅𝒶𝒸𝒽𝑒𝓁
